alright, after far far far far far too much pain caused by nat, took a break, got back up and played ready or not with ember
we did the valley of the dolls mission at the end
so we missed 2 civillians in the very first room, and accordingly did the entire rest of the mission first with ember dying at the very end
i uh, i backtracked painfully slowly checking every spot before finally realising, yep, its the wife we missed
heres the thing, the wife is super uncooperative and she will punch you if you get close
i was extremely low health due to ya know, having done the entire fucking mission, and also alone
i got too close, she punched me, i died, the end, finished the entire mission and got every hostile, died to a pissed off wife